A woman, who identified herself Blessed AdeNike, has accused Nigerian churches of being insensitive towards divorced women with their sermons and teachings.
AdeNike, who confirmed that she is a divorcee, made the claim on a post on her Twitter handle, @Imagervet, on Sunday.
According to her, divorced men are not emotionally abused the way divorced women are.
She insisted that churches do not have the right to question her and other divorced women choices.
As a divorced female, church can sometimes be insensitive with sermons & teachings. I am aware that divorced males are not usually gaslit(?) the way I am & some days, it rankles. Today was one such day.
I reserve the right to come to church & not have people rubbish my choices.
— Blessed AdeNike (@Imagervet) April 25, 2021
The tweet elicited varied responses, with some commenters showing empathy towards AdeNike and calling for respect and tolerance of divorced women while others insisted that the Christian interpretation of marriage does not support divorce.
See some reactions to the tweet below:
Divorce is one of the most misunderstood sins among Christians, what the Bible said about it is generally misinterpreted. Emphasizing that divorce is unacceptable in Christianity irrespective of what led to it is nothing but religious correctness
We must do better
— Oludotun Olufemi S. (@Somidotun7) April 26, 2021
So tell us the scriptural correctness under which divorce is allowed?
While we can sympathise with the victims, I think we are not doing enough in teaching people to choose right and the consequences of choosing wrongly are not often emphasized enough.
— EZEKIEL EDEMATIE (@ezeedematie) April 26, 2021
First off the word of God(Bible) will not bend because of you. If U divorce with the right reasons the Bible stated then don't feel guilty if you can't forgive your husband but also read your Bible very well to understand the dos & don'ts when husband or wife put each other away
— Ehis Osaigbovo (@danbusky) April 26, 2021
My friend called me today, she attends a Nigerian church in a Francophone African country, 24hrs after her business opening, she was removed from all church groups, and despite the invitation, a church program was fixed same day and time, but she says she won't stop serving.
— NationalHero (@asubirain) April 25, 2021
My church full on disowned me and made sure I wasn’t welcome when I left my husband. Even though he was abusive, they told me to “just pray”, and preached sermons deliberately directed at me, saying we all have to endure suffering for the sake of Jesus.
— escaped ferret (@escaped_ferret) April 26, 2021
It's really sad to know that our churches still reason such way…sigh..
((((Fluffy bear hugs dearie))))
Christianity is a personal race, don't allow their insensitivity ruin your peace of mind pls.
— Xeeno Miller (Fluffy Bear Hugger)⚘ (@Geenyzeeny) April 25, 2021
Comments at it again.
The church was never instituted to tell us what we want to hear but to tell us the TRUTH.
Jesus fed some dudes a day before and they came again to get their belles filled but Jesus painted to whole picture for them and they ran away.
— Noble Okezie (@thenobleokezie) April 26, 2021
I stopped going to church cos of this…
— kemistry (@kemmyjeb62) April 25, 2021
Actually told a church elder recently, there is a growing number of single parents and divorced people in church, and the church is ignoring them.
The church needs to do better in this regard, na fashi I fashi I no kill person
— Adebanke Equagoo (@adebankseq) April 25, 2021
Sorry about your cause of divorce, nonetheless, God allows divorce only when a mate is guilty of adultery. However, in the case of abuse or other circumstances you could have opted to separate from your mate even though no immorality has taken place. (1 Corinthians 7:11).
— 𝘿𝙚𝙚 𝘿𝙖𝙣 (@DeeDan_) April 26, 2021
It's because you have allowed people's opinion rule your mindset. Did the same bible not tell us to cut off WHATEVER will prevent us from entering the kingdom of heaven? My sister, if it's a toxic marriage walking away from it was the best decision you made.
— Ubongabasi Awa (@UbongabasiAwa) April 26, 2021
This world is not a jungle…there are rules for every human engagement. Once an individual traversed those rules for personal rules, the rules of the society is considered first.
— Equity (@equitabletech) April 26, 2021
The truth is we can’t change what the books says. The church is never in support of divorce except in certain circumstances. Sometimes we just have to face it as it is. If the negativity is much, walk away for your mental state.
— obiamanambu (@duke_bazon) April 26, 2021
We don't know exactly what was said, bt sermons are nt supposed to b sensitive/insensitive, they should simply "rightly divide the word of truth." & because dt Word is "sharper than any double-edged sword," we shld expect it to penetrate deeply…judging our thoughts & desires.
— Olufemi OGUNTOKUN (@OlufemiOG) April 26, 2021