I won’t want to mention my name for privacy sake. I married my wife some months ago and I’m tired of her already.
She is too dirty. From leaving the dishes dirty overnight to leaving the bed untidy till I return from work. She is just impossible.
She has been working from home since the pandemic hit Nigeria and she does not even help keep anything tidy.
It got to the height when my pen fell behind the bed one evening, when I lifted the mattress to fetch it, I found dirty plates under the bed. They were already dried and starting to grow mould. I had a talk with her and she promised to change, in fact she did for some days only to go back to her old ways.
I have told her family I will divorce her if something is not done. I can’t be falling sick inside my own house because one woman does not think hygiene is important.
Hello Anonymous Writer,
I empathise with you over the current situation you are facing at home. It is quite underwhelming. However, I do not think that it is beyond remedy, to the extent that you are contemplating divorcing your wife.
It is good that you have had that initial conservation over the unhealthy behaviour and it had an influence on her, albeit for a short period. It is also good that you have expressed your displeasure to her family over her attitude. It is possible that your wife was pampered by her family during her formative years and is, therefore, unused to maintaining a house clean. However, the reporting needs to end there now and you work more towards helping your woman become a better person.
You need to have more discussions with us. Tell her to explain her challenges of home-keeping to you and proffer solutions on how she can do better. You can even the lead the way by assisting her whenever you are free in doing chores, showing her how decent you want to house to look and the arrangements that can result to that.
Try and do that for a couple of months and also verbally encourage her to be more active in her duties. A change will surely manifest and this time, for good.
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