Hi Yarn Central! In this episode, 6 women share how they got mercilessly cheated on by Lagos men. Now you might be wondering if your own case of being cheated on was worse than anyone’s story but brace yourself for what is coming.
“This is not really my own story, it happened to my friend. She had just started dating this man who was supposedly going through the worst divorce (his wife wasn’t making it any easier for him) but my friend with the consoling heart and soul decided to stand by him till the divorce was over and also because she was eager to get married. Let’s just say she assisted (also among the people that assisted him) him in cheating on his wife too since they weren’t fully divorced yet. But my girl was in love. The Yoruba demon decided to take advantage of her boundless love for him and cheated on her as well. She initially went over to his place, (she has the key to his house) and when she got in, she heard some moaning sounds coming from the guest’s room but she thought the TV was on then ignored it to quickly drop off some groceries in the kitchen. My friend said she was surprised when a lady dressed as all these white people’s maids came out from the room adjusting her roleplay dress to cover her lacy black panties. She confronted her and the little prostitute told her she was the housekeeper. Her boyfriend came out from the room and touched her on her shoulder and calmly told her the lady was the new housekeeper he brought since my friend wasn’t around often enough to ‘help in the cleaning of the house’. My friend said she didn’t believe him o but he started telling her that she’s being too imaginative and immediately he said “only cheaters will assume they’re being cheated on.” And that was the moment my friend let go of the situation. Yes o, I know she was getting gaslighted but who was I to start insisting a woman in love was being gaslighted?
The man was rich sha so I’m thinking that was what fanned the embers of her love for him despite knowing he was having unprotected sex with other women and was still standing on his ground about not cheating. The girl was going crazy. She started contemplating leaving him since she didn’t understand why the divorce was taking too long and she was scared of contracting a STD since she didn’t know how to tell him she wanted to have protected sex with him. Anyway, I will cut the long story short here, I’m not sure how the man managed to get back with his wife and why he even bothered with being honest with my girl despite being a lying demon that he was expecting a child with one of his cheating partners. My friend was 30 years old when they started dating and she was in that relationship for three good years.”
– Adamma, 31
“I once dated a Yoruba guy who managed to convince me that I was hearing voices/seeing things when I told him the girl he was cheating with called me. I met with the girl for lunch and kept trying to touch her to be sure she wasn’t a ghost. Yoruba men move different. Demons!
The babe he was cheating with begged me to leave him for her, she flew into Abuja just so we could see and talk, I agreed to leave the bros for her, called him to tell him I was no longer interested in the relationship and that I met with his babe. This guy threatened to tell my mum I was running mad. I sent him pictures of me and the girl and Oga said her had never met her before. I sent the girl a screenshot of his reply and she confronted him, and oga said I was a stalker from facebook. I finally left him for the babe.
The Yoruba demon started begging to get back with me, I told the babe and sent her a screenshot of his message. She confronted him and baba said he doesn’t recognize the chat. She sent the screenshot which I forwarded to him and baba ignored and kept begging. Later he sent a deep heart moving message to her and babe said she’ll forgive him. She forwarded the message to me and I told her to do as her heart led her. In less than two minutes, baba forwarded the same message to me. He edited the names.
I found out that we were four girls in total that he dated at the same time. One was abroad and she traced the three of us, reached out to two and then one of the two reached out to me too cos the other two had left.”
– Flower, 27
My boyfriend who I moved to Lagos for has a good job and he takes good care of me. Come to think of it, this job kept him busy always to even schedule dates for us. Everything became hazy when he suddenly decided to register as a bolt driver. This guy is not a Yoruba guy, he is from Akwa-Ibom and I am the Yoruba girl but I’m starting to think that there must be something in the Lagos air because he isn’t the first Lagos man I’m dating who has brutally cheated on me. These men living in Lagos are inhaling this toxic air like their lives depend on it. He told me that the perfect time for him to accept requests for the Bolt trips was at night and he preferred when the trips were farer because he wanted to ‘earn more’, this was coming from someone who is already earning plenty but I was impressed because I thought my man was trying to make more money for us.
Fast forward to the moment he started turning down the requests but accepted requests from a few of his WhatsApp contacts who were all women and these trips were at night. I took the initiative and moved in with him so I’d monitor him but there was no way I could really go through his phone except the few times I managed to find out that the requests came from women. So basically, my boyfriend registered as a Bolt driver to cheat on me without traces.
How I found out was when he kept getting WhatsApp requests from this particular lady and these requests came in around 8:30pm – 10:00pm and she happened to be a middle aged woman whom he referred to as his special customer and that the lady had grown to trust him. They always went to Ogun state by that time and he’d come back by 8am in the morning because ‘madam middle age’ as I started referring to her in my head needed him to bring her back as well. I sha booked a ride on one of these his nocturnal trips and followed him at his back. I was ready to get to the root of it when it became too frequent. Half way through the trip, I turned back because I didn’t want to be the FBI and CIA for cheating boyfriends.
When I got home, I decided that I’d let it be for a while unless it continued but my sister, it did. Then I donned my Wonder Woman cape and embarked on the journey to expose my boyfriend on another Ogun State night trip with madam Middle age. When we got to the hotel where the woman was waiting for him, I told the driver I’d pay him extra if he could just wait a little longer. Lucky for me, the woman came out in the lobby because I was beginning to wonder how I’d find her room. When they stood face to face, he kissed her and my mouth was agape. You would ask me why I was surprised because I knew all along. What brought me back to reality was when the driver hit the horn of his car that it was time to leave. I went back into his car solemnly and told him to drive me home. On our way back to Lagos that night, the young man asked me, “did you find what you were looking for and what will you do now?”, I looked at him and told him that I needed to get back home first.
I got home, I looked at all the nice things he had gotten for me and thought about packing my things and leaving but how could I? He came back home the next morning very excited and ready to go to work and he told me how much he loved me and when he left that morning, I finally decided to stay with him. At least he does his job in taking care of his woman abi women.”
– Yinka, 28
In order to not make you feel overwhelmed, there is a part two with the remaining three stories about women who were cheated on by Lagos boyfriends. If you wanna share your own story too, send a DM to newsbreakgist on IG and tell your story. Names used are usually pseudonyms.
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