Relationships do not necessarily expire at “it’s over”, in some people’s case, that’s when the forbidden fruit tastes sweeter. Some Nigerian youths tell us about their experiences with their exes after they had broken up with them.
“When I broke up with my boyfriend, it felt like everything will be alright because of course, I’d meet more people and explore. A few months after we had broken up, I had tried making new friends, going on dates but there was this chasm that existed between myself and these people. During this period, it seemed like everyone had their lives going well for them relationship wise. I started feeling like I’d end up single and alone since I wasn’t able to connect with anyone. My ex seemed like my only option at that time so I texted him to see if we could work things out. For a month after we started talking again, the traits that made me break up with him came back and I know it’s unhealthy but I’m still with him.”
– Natasha, 27
“To me, Good sex matters a lot. I broke up with my ex girlfriend and missed how much we had good sex and I just had to go back to that pu**y.”
– Divine, 24
“I went back to my ex because the sex was great and she was good company.”
– Emeka, 25
“I’ve always read how people travelled a long distance to be with their partners. Like Celine Dion singing “I drove all night to get to you…woke you from your sleep to make love to you”, that’s exactly how it was except that this time, it was my ex boyfriend. I was with a new person when we started talking again but one afternoon, the conversations got steamy. When we were together, I did the visiting since we stayed in different states and this guy never agreed to come visit me but guess who travelled a long distance to come have sex with me? My ex boyfriend.”
– Cynthia, 26
“Tried going back to my ex? Yes. Did it work out? Not really. She said she wanted closure and we tried for a couple months. The highs were really high and the lows were at their lowest. It seemed very clear that it wasn’t likely to work out. The reason I gave it a try was because I figured this thing worked with this person right so why go through the whole process with someone else when I had this option. Another reason was Accessibility to sex too cause I was younger. Later I figured out that I was burnt out of this relationship and just wanted sex and she felt the same way.”
– Phillip, 26
“I only went back to my ex girlfriend to smash then bounced after the great nut.”
– Michael, 23
“I may have never been a fan of going back to exes until I bumped into this particular one at a restaurant. We sat down talking and started catching up. We had broken up for over two years, I used to complain about us not communicating well until that fateful moment when we casually bumped into each other at the restaurant. It seemed like everything we didn’t say when we were together, we said it that night at the restaurant. It didn’t take time before we started holding hands and that’s how I got back to my ex right after we had sex at his place when we left the restaurant. We’re still pushing the relationship together.
– Maryann, 26
“This might be dramatic but we broke up today. I went over to her place to get my things the next day and she said it wouldn’t hurt to have sex for the last time. I stood there contemplating what to do because the breakup was a bitter one as we ended things in a very rough way. Just know we eventually shagged and we still are even if we aren’t dating per se. I’m with someone else but I can’t leave my ex because of the great sex we always have. It’s a bit of a dilemma at this point.”
– Mike, 28
“We both had a mutual friend and the mutual friend was his friend, a guy. He invited me over to his place one evening and I decided to go because I knew the invitation meant no harm. When I got there, we started talking about my ex and his friend told me how miserable my ex was. It wasn’t long before my ex boyfriend knocked on the door and came in. I was definitely the only one surprised in the room because his friend smiled when he let my ex boyfriend in. Fast forward to when we talked for a bit (I and my ex), he finally told me he missed me and he just let his fingers linger on my arms and honestly, I didn’t miss him but I didn’t know what came over me when I asked his friend to let us use his room.”
– Amaka, 26
“I’ll just go straight to the point. The first time I had sex was with my ex boyfriend and this happened after we broke up. I never wanted to have sex with him until we broke up and that was when I became ready to have sex. We started texting and soon it became sexting. Eventually, I told him I wanted us to do it. I won’t lie, it was terrible but isn’t it always terrible for first timers? We aren’t talking to each other anymore.”
– Ella, 21
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