Hello Love & Life,
Please this is the second time i’m messaging, kindly respond. I am really troubled concerning my elder brother’s promiscuous ways, he is married with 2 cute girls and his wife is really beautiful, she is very nice especially to me and even gives me her clothes because she added weight after birth. But this my elder brother has numerous girlfriends, two that I know about.
I feel his wife doesn’t deserve to be treated that way and I really can’t help this urge to tell her the names of the girls he’s cheating with so she can confront him.
PS. My brother pays my fees so i can’t talk to him.
Dear Anonymous writer,
I admire your serious concern about your brother’s flirting despite being married. I am more happier that you have decided not to intervene in his marriage negatively, even though it’s for selfish reasons.
I really think there are better ways of intervening in rocky relationships and marriages than back stabbing any person involved. If you have told his wife, she might not have handled the issue properly and might have escalated the issue beyond reconciliation. It is, therefore, important that we adopt positive methods when resolving such issues.
And one of such positive ways is to confront those we are directly linked to. So, you must speak truth to power. That means you must talk to your brother about his bad behaviour- YES! Let the gratification you receive from him not block your mouth from telling him the home truth. Explain to him that what he is doing is hurtful to both him and the family and demand that he must put a stop to it.
In addition, you can also explain the situation to your parents and request that they advise their son properly. But they must go about it tactfully so as not to raise suspicion for his wife.
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