Hi, Love and Life, my name is Tope, a university undergraduate. I have a friend who really wants to be a lot more, but I just don’t feel anything for him.
I have tried all I could to make him see reasons why we can’t be together, but he seems not to understand.
He showers me with gifts which I always don’t like rejecting, he now visits my house uninvited and atimes run into my boyfriend.
The way he stalks is becoming unbearable and am considering cutting ties with him.
Would it be wrong of me to do that?
This is just one of the numerous cases of love that never sparkled. It’s quite unfortunate that your stalker has refused to abide by your decision.
It is really not good to really cut ties with a friend, especially because of infatuation. What I will recommend is that you inform someone closer to the stalker of the present situation and implore the person to advice him to stop his annoying act.
If that fails, I will then advice that you do the drastic measure: cut off ties with him, deliberately change your phone number and house address and all other details that the stalker may use to trace you.
You may also want to involve the law enforcement agencies if the stalker becomes more extreme. Just be very careful and ensure you are not in danger.
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