In this episode of My Story on Yarn Central, a 28-year-old man discloses how his sex life is a little unusual as he can’t seem to enjoy sex with any of his partners unless he masturbates. He talks about how long it took him to have penetrative sex and how masturbation seemed to be the only way to reach optimum sexual satisfaction.
Anonymous | 28
Growing up, my parents never really saw sex as a thing that was so explicit the way other parents made it seem. Even at school, our teachers were mindful of how they used the word sex but my parents were very liberal when it came to topics surrounding sex. I believe they became more vocal about it with myself and brothers when the oldest got to 10 and I was 7 years old. They emphasized on us seeking consent and making sure we had protection on us always before going ahead to have sex. Although, they made sure we knew that we weren’t allowed to have sex until we turned 16.
I saw a pornographic video for the first time when I was 12. I happened to enter my brother’s room without knocking and there he was, watching a guy wank off to this naked lady. He pushed me out of his room and I must say that the video left an imprint on my mind. I was a very hormonal kid and this led me to look out for more porn videos just to satisfy my curiosity. Apparently, it wasn’t a new or odd thing to watch pornography because my classmates often talked about it. When I finally got deep into watching porn, I found that I wasn’t really interested in seeing the penetrative sex happen but to watch how the guys stroked themselves. And that was how I started.
I wanked off to almost every image of a woman I saw at least twice daily and intensified it at night since the chances of anyone walking in on me was very low. Things continued like this until I finally decided to explore penetrative sex when I turned 16. Unfortunately, I wasn’t among the mid cute guys in school. You would find me with the set of people that were just present at school, not necessarily losers, not the happening guys either but just simply present at school. It was even hard for a girl to ask for my pen, yes it was that terrible. I just continued watching porn and having sexual fantasies.
Finally, that massive turn around growth struck me and apparently, I started looking better with some whiskers here and there lol. Girls started noticing me and by then, I was 20. Towards the end of the year I turned 20, I finally had sex and in as much as I wanted it to be exciting because I did it with my girlfriend then, it wasn’t at all. She was experienced with giving blow jobs so she did this to me and even if it was close to how I felt when I masturbated, I didn’t really get aroused. I had to channel my mind to the times when I stroked my penis myself. It continued like that to the point I had to pretend I was really enjoying sex and one time, I got honest with her and she thought she was the problem and started reclining till we broke up.
I had sex with a few more people (even went to orgies and had more than three sexual partners) when I was in my third year in the uni and I must say that the only time I get optimum sexual pleasure and satisfaction is when I masturbate. I once disclosed this to my ex girlfriend, we dated for three years and she thought I needed to see a sex therapist. One thing you must know is that they cost a lot. We broke up when she found out that even after we had sex, I still went to the bathroom to stroke myself and she just couldn’t take it anymore. I’m thinking about marriage but the person has to know that this is how I am and there’s almost not much I can do about it but we will find a way.
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