Hello love and life,
My name is Jide. I’m a married man with two kids. The problem is my wife. I married her when she was fat or thick as they call it. I’ve always loved big women. But now she is hell bent on embarking on some weight loss scheme she saw on the internet.
I’ve warned her against it but she has refused. Just last week, I saw her drinking those annoying tea she bought for a lot of money. She has been taking delivery of different herbs and now goes to the gym.
I’ve explained to her that I love her body the way it is but she won’t listen. She no longer eats with the rest of us. All she eats now is fruits. No dinner, no Sunday pounded yam.
I’m honestly tired! I don’t know how else to stop her.
We all have our fantasies, which are subjective based on our individual preferences. However, you also have to put into consideration the needs of other persons when taking decisions involving more than one person, especially in such a sensitive subject-matter as marriage.
You might have genuinely married your wife because you adore her shape and would want to be frolicking with her in “the other room”. But you must know that man develops and learns everyday, and that the day man stops to learn, his existence from this earth is considered all over.
Your wife must have learnt that her plus-shape size is harmful to her health, and has taken steps to remedy her situation. Therefore, you should not be displeased and angry with her that she is shedding off some weight. It is, ultimately, both for her and your good.
There has been an increasing rate of heart-related ailments, which can be linked to eating disorder and obesity. And I’m not sure you would like and be able to cope with the intensity of hospital running around should she, peradventure, land in the hospital for any serious ailment.
So, you must support her in her weight loss and not antagonize her for taking such a crucial and life-saving decision.
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