Good day love and life,
I got married late last year after much pressure from my family. I must say it has not been easy because my husband is a lot older than me and is rarely around because he works in Abuja.
Some months after my wedding, I discovered I started having interest in younger men. One day I was home alone when the carpenter sent one of his apprentices to fix a faulty lock in the house. While I was holding the curtain aside for him to do his work, my hand brushed his back and I became wet and my nipples turned hard.
I tried so hard that day not to force him to have sex with me.
Another incident happened when my dispatch rider also came into the house to carry some good for delivery, I really felt like begging him for sex.
This urge is killing me inside and I even found I don’t enjoy sex with my husband anymore.
Please what can I do?
Hello Anonymous Writer,
Well, I must say that it is a disastrous sexual urge that currently possesses you and you must dispossess it before it ravages your life big time.
Given the explanation concerning the circumstances of your marriage, it is understandable that you may be lacking synergy with your husband. However, you are now MARRIED and in so far there is no issue of domestic abuse or infidelity by your husband, then you should also respect the life contract that you have signed with him by refraining from cheating.
You cannot be craving to have sex with other men, whether older or younger, especially in your matrimonial home. You have to respect the sanctity of marriage.
There is no laid out therapy to stop this, only you can. You have to programme your mind against such thoughts when male workers come to your home. It’s a mind game; either you are ready to remain staunch or you fall by the wayside.
You should also be craving to see your husband more frequently and flame the love life that you both should ordinarily have. His regular stay in Abuja is not an excuse for you not to build that bonding that is urgently needed. You should beckon on him to pay for your transportation fee to Abuja from your current location for at least two weekends out of the four in a month. That way, you get establish that familiarity, get to know him and love him better. Also, speak with bliss emotion with him daily on the phone, and not just the regular ‘hi, how was your day’ conversation. Let the conversation be a chit-chatty that will make both of you smile at the end of the call and long for you both to be in each other’s arms.
I suggest that you imbibe this and you will see improved changes in the weeks and months ahead.