Don’t say you’ve never been faced with the question of when to kiss that man or woman. In this social media era, it is easy to say that people have more conversations over their devices rather than how they do in person so it won’t be a task to actually spark up interests and feelings in a person over the phone. Ideally, that is where you decide the location to rendezvous and progress things in person and kinda decide whether you are ready to do stuff with this specific person. I mean, that’s how you start initiating ‘things’. If you thought there is a perfect time to kiss someone for the first time, some Nigerian youths are here to tell you otherwise.
“I remember chatting and talking to this guy I met on Facebook. It was really fun because he was cute and funny. Girls like funny guys. Finally, we decided to meet up after so much texting and calling. I wanted to kiss him on that first date but I didn’t want to seem like I was pushing things too fast and I wasn’t sure if he wanted the same. I am used to men making the first move so I thought to relax a bit and wait. Our conversations weren’t at all geared towards kissing and plenty plenty but you could tell we were attracted to each other. Anyway, he finally told me he wanted to kiss me after our first date and we finally did on the second date. This time, it was planned. I’d rather say there is no perfect time, just let it flow.”
– Olamide, 25.
“In my opinion, the best time you can kiss a person is after you and the person have talked about it. That way you are less unsure of whether you are into the idea. Also, when the situation is right. If the person isn’t very open to PDA (I’m assuming you have talked about it before), attempting a kiss in public isn’t ideal so finding the right setting definitely helps.”
– Marvin, 27.
“I have never had a date before but when I imagine it, I think I would like a kiss at the end of the first date. Just right after he drops me off.”
– Lola, 21.
“I am not a respecter of a scheduled time LOL. I am more of a momentary person because if I meet you right now and you look kissable, I am diving in for that kiss because why waste time? whatever will be, will be.”
– Chinny, 24.
“If y’all hit it off online and already gone past the third base, the first date will do but if it’s an organic meet, preferably on the second date or third. If the intensity of the connection is in the clear, at the end of the first date is totally fine but the kiss should be brief and innocent.”
– John, 25.
“I’d say it depends. Let’s not take away the fact that connection (chemistry) is vital and key here. A gentleman wouldn’t want to rush things on the first date. He’d want to take things slow. This all depends on the kind of conversations, moments and memories created on the first date not leaving the feeling it brings as well, the second date wouldn’t be a bad idea to share your first kiss.”
– Jonathan, 27.
“I think it depends on the understanding they have… Could be on the first date or the 365th date, nah una know.”
– Soso, 29.
“I think it should be a mutual thing. When both of them deem it time to do so. Guys do not like to waste time so it’s very much dependent on the lady. Once she feels it is okay, then it is fine. To me it’s not a thing of numbers of dates or whatever, it is whenever the lady is comfortable enough to kiss you.”
– Prince, 24.
“I can even kiss the person on the first date. Date happens mostly with people having a romantic affair. Now with “mere friends”.
“You don’t expect me to kiss you on the first date no matter your beauty and money. To me it doesn’t make sense at all. Let me say that it is based on the individual, level of communication and connection between the both. Well as for me, anytime we do on a date, I will make sure I chop better food come order ice cream on top.”
– Silver, 26.
“I’m not sure if kissing a person should be a big thing. If you want to kiss someone on the first day, simply ask for consent before going in for the kiss. That’s how I see it.”
– Chinaza, 26.
“Interesting, In my opinion, it’s always better the other party initiates. Well, I hardly initiate stuff just to avoid problems and because I’m cool with anything too depending on my interest in the person.
If I were to initiate- I think the vibe of the person will be the key determiner. (Jokes about stuff like that may be an indicator. Hints about heaven, terrible youths, immaturity etc – is also an indication that it’s better for the person to be the one to initiate).”
These Nigerian youths have shared their thoughts which you might have related with. Before you go in for that first kiss, seek consent and you are good to go! If you enjoyed reading this, kindly like and share.