The Topic on Yarn Central today is “Why Do You Want To Get Married?”. Check out what Nigerian Ladies in their early to mid 20s have to say to this question.
“I often ask myself this question. Why do I really need to get married? I mean apart from having kids legally lol and having a partner that y’all live together without having judgmental eyes on you or getting married because the society and your parents say “it’s time”, what really is the reason for me to get married? Till now, I don’t even know like this but let’s be seeing sha.”
– Precious, 22
“I decided to stay celibate till I get married. If that is achievable, I don’t know. I’m not staying celibate for religious reasons or whatsoever… at least that’s what I tell myself. But at this point? I think one of my major reasons for wanting to marry is sex. Yes, I’m getting married because I wanna have sex. When you’re dating, you are quite random with who you’re dating. That’s how it’s been for me. When you finally decide to get married, that’s when you know you won’t marry any random person and that very significant person is who I wanna have unprotected sex with in a very liberal manner.”
– Georgina, 20
“I want to get married because I desire a genuine partnership in a person. Someone to break boundaries with, love me (vice versa), have children with and just exist with this person.”
– Stephanie, 24
“Omo getting married these days is having someone to share your financial burdens with. And you are literally entitled to their money. Your money is mine, mine’s mine because how much am I really earning? You can’t be entitled to your boyfriend’s money nau but you know you can be entitled to your husband’s money. So that’s basically it, I want to get married for financial freedom. That’s why I can’t marry a broke man. But before you quote me, there are other reasons attached to my wanting to get married o but monetary assurance is one of the key reasons. Thank you.”
– Ngozi, 25
“I wanna have pretty babies. I don’t wanna do that with my boyfriend… I fear boyfriends will up and dip but when we’re married, you already know that we’re in this together and you’ll look after our kids with me. Aside from that, my parents will cut my head off if I have kids outside marriage. I have a really good relationship going on for me right now and I think what’s missing is just a child and a ring.”
– Ololade, 23
“I stay with my parents and I’m seriously tired of it. I can’t move out because I can’t afford it yet and I don’t like staying alone😭 I think I’ll feel more accomplished when I get married and move out of my parent’s home. I want freedom from my parents and I want them to see me as an adult that I am. I feel marriage will set me free from them.”
– Sandra, 24
“I really wanna have a family of my own. I have my family but you know that feeling new couples get when they talk about their wives or their husbands or the little kid they just had, I want that feeling too. I wanna say ‘my little family’ when I’m describing staying with my husband and our child. I see a family of three and I just want that for me. I think there’s a special kind of happiness that comes with having your own family unit and not necessarily belonging to it like you do with your siblings and parents. This time around, you bring people into it and call them yours – your little family.”
– Jess, 25
What is/are your reason(s) for wanting to get married? Kindly leave your comments below. How will you find this husband if you do not like and share this post? For more relatable content, visit Yarn Central where all the yarn is happening!