Hello, Love and Life,
There is this lovely girl I am seeing and she possesses all I want in a long-term partner.
The only trouble is I am not physically attracted to her.
We met through our shared love of running 18 months ago and started running together.
She has the same values, principles and outlook on life as me and her family are similar to my own.
We go on dates and have a great time but I don’t fancy her. Please, will a physical attraction grow in time?
Hello Anonymous Writer,
It’s a tad surprising for you to claim that you are not physically attracted to a lady, whom I am sure you pursued for a long time before she said yes to you for a relationship. I think it would be better for you to say that you are not fancied by your girlfriend’s physical attributes than standing on your current claim.
However, uttering either claim seems to suggest that you do NOT truly love your girlfriend. Irrespective of your assertion that she is the perfect fit for a wife, if you selectively specify the attributes you admire, then you truly do not love her. You were quite aware of her physical features when you were doing all the “chiking”, so why the complain now?
You have to make the attraction between you both grow by accepting her physical features now. That’s the plain truth about the entire matter. Time, in this situation, can never be the decider, rather you are the ultimate decider. If you say you are waiting for time to change the situation, what will happen is that by the time you both eventually get married is that you would be committing extra-marital activities, cheating massively on her under the guise that “she has a beautiful soul but she is not fine enough”.
So, you must brace up and accept your girlfriend’s feature and accept her for who she is or better still, just end the relationship rather than deceive the unsuspecting lady.