Hello Love and Life,
I would like to know if it will be possible to love someone that was introduced to one?
My friends always try to hook me up with guys but I always end up disappointing them.
I feel whoever I must love must be someone that was not introduced to me.
Am I getting missing big opportunities who should I continue to hold on to my belief?
Hello Anonymous Writer,
It is very possible to love someone that is introduced to you. After all, your friends, I believe, have your best interest at heart when hooking you up with a friend. They would not just to match you up with an irresponsible person just for the sake of dating.
All it takes, dear, is patience and bonding. That is why it is always advisable for you not to view any guy introduced to you immediately as “possible Mr Right”. Establish an acquaintance with such guy, understand him and most importantly, give him the chance to express himself. You can then lay the ground rules for him to know his boundaries. However, putting him off just because you are sceptical and do not trust a guy would do you no good as such a situation would continue with other guys.
So, ensure you bond with him. When you are a bit close to the guy, you can understand his strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, good and bad behaviour. You also carry out a background check to assess him further, and you can then compare and contrast to know if he is the right guy for you.
Finding the right guy takes a process. You do not just expect him to fall on your lap. So, I advise that you open up a bit to your would-be introduced suitors so that you can evaluate and make a pick if you are satisfied with any of them.
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