Nigerians love to feel special, it is why it never really occurs to the typical Nigerian Youth that they are the side pieces. Some Nigerian Youths on Yarn central narrate their stories on how they discovered they were the side pieces.
“I can remember how I met Bayo, it was really chill. He had this air of confidence that comes with not talking too much. You would never have suspected anything because he was that taciturn. We were together for about five months, I even met his siblings a few times at his house and I felt like yeah, this was going somewhere great. I was relaxed because I thought my man was mine alone. I found out that I was the backup backup when I was over at his place, I had just woken up and I overheard him telling his sister that a certain Tolu who was in a different country had just surprised him with a text saying she was coming to Nigeria. Bayo wasn’t much of a talker but I knew at least a substantial amount of his friends but I had never heard of anyone called Tolu. I just stepped out and asked who this Tolu was. The reaction on his sister’s face gave the truth away and one thing led to another and that was how I found out Tolu was his fiancé. They should be getting married soon.”
– Esosa, 26
“This is why I have trust issues in relationships. My boyfriend then was quite sneaky. The signs were glaring but I was just too dumb to do anything about it. I always spent a weekend with him at least once a month. On other days, we just went on dates or he randomly visited me. A few of the times I visited, he never really liked me going through his things and that was understandable because not everyone is comfortable with you touching their things but I still felt something was fishy. He went out to get us dinner one time and I just wanted to pick something from my bag that I placed next to his suitcase in his wardrobe. I noticed something shiny from the suitcase, curiosity led me to unzipping the bag totally and that was how I found a wrapped gift with “To My Number One” inscribed on it. At first I thought it was mine lol until I turned the package to its rear side and saw a different name on it. He came in shortly after and we had arguments over me rummaging through his possessions but it still led to him telling me that was his girlfriend of two years. I pity her sha.”
– Favour, 25
“When this girl agreed to be my girlfriend, I couldn’t believe it. We had sex a couple of times and I decided we should just make it official. She no gree at first until I told her I couldn’t continue having casual sex with her. I didn’t have as much money to buy the expensive things she used but this girl was spending plenty of money without asking me for any. She’d spend and buy me food and other things. She always got calls from someone that I wouldn’t mention his name and she never picked these calls where I was until I confronted her and she told me it was her boyfriend and I was better at sex than he was and a whole lot of stuff. Yes, I enjoyed everything she got me but I just couldn’t continue because I wanted something serious.”
– Miracle, 25
“He desperately wanted a threesome with me and one other girl. It sounded weird to me because he was so certain he wanted it to be that girl. Ayo was very adventurous with sex and we had already tried different things during sex in a span of 2 months that we started dating. I won’t lie, I’m not such a freaky person in relationships but I really wanted this one to work. When he suggested that he wanted a threesome, I was very surprised because I didn’t expect that it would get to that but I eventually agreed. In less than a week, he already found the perfect girl for it. We agreed it would be at a hotel because he didn’t want any stranger “invading his personal space” and I was fine with it. We got to the hotel and madam was already smiling with my man in a very familiar way. You’d suspect they’d known each other for a very long time. I wasn’t mad or anything because I just thought she was very excited. To cut the long story short, I wasn’t shaved and when the girl saw me, she looked at Ayo and was like “I thought I told you to tell her to prepare well?”… I paused for a second and thought it through. I asked Ayo to come to the bathroom for a moment and she called him back and started asking what was going on… It was how I had found out that they had been together for over a year and I was the other girl getting groomed for the threesome. ”
– Christy, 23
“I worked at a hotel in Abuja. One of the lodgers happened to be a middle aged Lebanese man who was really cute. He told me he was divorced because I didn’t like the idea of dating a married man. I finally agreed to be his girlfriend. Things were going great until he got back to his country on his work holiday and posted “Glad to be back with my wife again” and that was how I discovered I was the one clowning the entire time.”
– Benita, 26
“I have really bad luck with boys. It’s a long story, but I was once talking and basically hooking up with this guy. Turned out I was the side chick. I’ll tell you one thing, his main girl was nastily crazy… I was legit scared of her.”
– Lisa, 24
“So I was once a side chick to my ‘ex’ who had his real girlfriend in the US. He broke up with me days before my 21st birthday and a year later, he got married days before my birthday to the same chick he broke up with me over.”
– Edith, 25
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