‘My Girlfriend Threatening To Tell My Wife About Pregnancy’

Hello Counsellor,

I have a serious problem. I have been married for eight years now. My wife and I do not have a child yet.

Some months ago, I met this lady at a colleague’s birthday party.

We had sex some days later at her place and we decided to become friends with benefits.

Let me also say that she is going to get married soon. The pandemic is what is delaying her fiancé from coming to Nigeria.

The problem now is she claims to be pregnant for me and is asking for N1 million to keep it secret. I’ve been begging her to please abort it because I can’t imagine my wife hearing about it.

She has insisted I must pay the money. I don’t have such money and she now has my wife’s number. I’m really depressed right now.

My wife will be disappointed if she gets to know cos I swore to stand by her until we have our own child.

Please what can I do? This is really depressing.

Hello Anonymous Writer,

It is quite unfortunate what has happened to you. Your home is about to experience some topsy-turvy encounters during to your own own actions.

I also do feel that your girlfriend in question would not want her fiancé to know that the child in her womb is not his. She knows that you have no leverage on her (her fiancé’s details) and that is why she is confident enough to blackmail you.

Like the prodigal son in the Holy Book, my candid advice is that you own up to your misdeeds and report yourself to your wife. Yes, she will be mad, raged and probably (and rightly) not speak to you for days and may eventually forgive you in the long-run.

But it is better she hears your misdeeds from your own mouth than for your ‘outside fixture’ to reveal it to her. That will be heart-wrenching. The confession will also spare you the misery of gifting another person a copious N1 million in this period when the pandemic as made things unstable for everyone, economically.

So, do the honourable thing and spare yourself of agony, sir.

Yours,

GCN

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