I’ll go straight to the point. My husband has lost his ability to have an erection. And believe me when I say we have tried everything. We have been to every hospital I know, we have seen specialists, we have been to prayer houses all to no avail.
It’s a sad situation. Bad enough, we got married just over a year ago and are yet to have a child. It has been very difficult for me to cope without sex. I have already held on for six months now and I must admit I’m cracking.
My best friend, who knows about this situation has asked me to divorce him and move on. I have told her the world will wag their tongues but she insists it is the only way out of this mess.
Already, I am arranging to start dating a former classmate of mine who lost his wife some weeks ago.
I’m losing it, please what can I do?
Hello Anonymous Writer,
I sincerely sympathise with you over your current predicament. Majority of newlyweds are always grinning and eagerly anticipate enjoying the perks of marriage, most especially conjugal bliss after being told to abstain and holding up during courtship.
However, I am sure that you did not get married to your husband only for the sake of marriage. Yes, the craving for sex is there and, more importantly, the need to have your kids and build your own family cannot be dismissed at all. But I am also sure that you saw in your husband a man who can help you actualise your ambitions and help you to be settled and happy in life, and that is why you married him.
I will urge you to remember your marriage vow: “for better and for worse.” You cannot decide to leave the marriage now just because your husband lacks an erection and is unable to satisfy you on the bed. You have to remain loyal to him in good and trying times, and vice versa. What of if you divorce him and then discover that the person you are planning to move to is even worse than your husband? What will you then?
So, I will advise that you hold your horses and be patient with your husband. Continue to be his support system in this difficult period for him by putting him in your prayers, continue your visits to health specialists and following strictly all prescriptions and medications.
I am sure you have heard of couples having kids after over five, ten years of marriage. I am not saying that’s what you deserve, but just be patient as you are just one year into your marriage.
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