My problem is of a sexual nature. I have been married to my husband for just four months and sex has been hell with him. He keeps talking of hitting my G-spot but he hits the wrong place, and with too much force too.
I’ve tried to explain to him that he hits the wrong spot which is painful but he insists he knows what he’s doing. He boasts of reading some book his sister sent to him from the United States. I’ve asked that we read this book together but he has refused, insisting it’s for men only.
I’ve explained to him that I feel so much discomfort when we make love but he just doesn’t seem to listen to me. Sex has become a nightmare for me.
Please what can I do?
Hello Anonymous Writer,
Well, this is an internal intimate issue which should not have not been exposed to the public sphere in the first instance.
Your husband’s reaction, unfortunately, is one of arrogance. He feels he knows how to have sex with the opposite partner, meanwhile you, the woman, knows where her body is pinching her.
It’s painful that your husband continuously missing the direct vagina spot four months into the wedding. That’s enough time for some men to have quickly gotten their wives pregnant already. My guess is that his lack of skill in the other room is probably due to his state of being a virgin before he met you, which is not bad at all. Should such disagreement and discomfort continue, it would not bode down well for your marriage.
I could have recommended that you talk to his sister who gave him the supposed book about sex to talk some sense into him. However, this is meant to be a private matter between you and your husband, as any family member from either side who hears of such acrimony would begin to apportion blames at either or any of both you, thereby escalating an already grave situation.
My advice, therefore, is simple. When next you both engage in sex and he hits the wrong spot, TAKE CHARGE of the action. You can possibly climb over and ride him and insert his penis at the appropriate spot in your vagina and ask him to continue from there. Do this a couple of times and I’m sure his brains would pick the right spot.
Alternatively, you can get him books that talk about sex, especially those that illustrate sexual positions with diagrams. That will also help as he will be able to see the position of the vagina and the book will further guide him on how to position his penis during such activity.
Just ensure you implement one of these suggestions and I bet you, that pain and distress you experience today, you will not feel it again.
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