It took me a lot of courage to come out with this because I just could not bear it any longer. I’ve been married to my wife for two years and I’m thankful to God for giving me such lovely companion. However, I can’t stand her habit of storing up used sanitary pads, I mean who does that? She claims it’s dangerous to trash used pads because ritualists collect them. She also doesn’t flush down the toilet because of blockage, instead she stores them up and burn every 3 months. I’ve tried to make her see reasons why she can’t continue to store up used pads, all to no avail. I’ve had to deal with this for two years and I’m really fed up, please help.
Dear Anonymous Writer,
First of all, let me empathise with you over your situation. It could be a very nauseating stuff, and I am speaking from real experience.
However, your wife’s superstitious claim is also one to rightly ponder on, especially in this present time. Many ladies have during this end-of-the-year period complained of their sanitary pads or panties surprisingly getting missing only for some to mysteriously behave in a certain way weeks after. And since you also do not know how the waste collectors handle the trash, one might assume that the workers can either do or undo with the objects collected.
So, it’s for both of you to sit and meet at a common ground. I am delighted that you described your wife as “a lovely companion.” This means that you can sit her down and discuss certain inadequacies of her and she will listen.
My advice to you on this is to massage her ego in communicating your message to her regarding this matter; knowing that women like to be pampered and spoken to harshly, especially on issues that affect them directly. Inform her about the health hazards of keeping such used items for a long period in the house. Apart from its irritating look which could pre-empt someone to vomit, there could also be a breakout of unhealthy situations such as rashes and eventually a disease.
Therefore, implore her to dispose of the used pads with private waste collectors OR if she still insists on burning them, then let her reduce the timeline from three months to a month or basically two weeks. This will help to reduce the risk of any epidemic breakout. Also, if it’s possible, you can provide her with a special closet at home where she can keep the used pads, pending the period she aims to get rid of them. The cabinet should preferably be away from our room but located somewhere close to the room, where she can constantly monitor the movement in and around where they are kept.
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