In Today’s episode on Yarn Central, the topic of discussion is Friends in Relationships. However, this time, these persons are the single friends to people in relationships. They share their experiences and how it has affected their relationships with their friends.
“My friend is not a dramatic person. She tells you what she wants to tell you about her relationship, nothing too deep and nothing too shallow. This doesn’t put me under any pressure to say much and become “that single friend” who doesn’t want her “loved up” friend’s progress. I sha know that I’ve been benefitting from her relationship. She always shares her food and money with me lol.”
“My guy got married and things have never been the same between us. I mean I’m not asking him to come to the club with me like we used to before but I just wanted to still have my friendship and share a couple of drinks with him even if his status had changed. I seemed like the bad influence and the unmarried friend who isn’t mature enough to understand anything. It’s like he built this wall between us after his wedding and I can’t break through it.”
“Things are better when we’re both in relationships, that way it is balanced. When one of us is single, we try not to interfere too much with the other’s relationship. I learned this from another person’s experience. Her relationship with her friend ended when her friend suspected that she was deliberately giving bad advice to bring her relationship to an end. It is even better when we are both single because it gets easier to share our experiences without any hidden judgement.”
“I got close to my friend’s boyfriend. I found him really funny but I never had the intention to ‘steal’ him from her and he wasn’t at all attracted to me in that way. Whenever I visited her and her boyfriend was around, I noticed she didn’t want me to stay too long or she wouldn’t even let me sit near him and talk. It wasn’t long before she confronted me and accused me of wanting to steal her boyfriend from her. That confrontation explained why she had been acting that way. We are no longer friends for this reason. We have each other’s contacts but we know it is no longer the same as it used to be.”
“My friend’s boyfriend was trying to surprise her on her birthday. We decided to work together and plan the whole thing. It would not be a surprise if I had told my friend about it, right? Anyway, she started thinking he was cheating on her with me when she noticed he was texting me ‘codedly’ but she never talked about it with me. She was acting weird with me until she found one of our texts where we mentioned we’d meet at a hotel to plan her birthday. On that day, before we even called her to come over to the hotel, she had managed to trace her boyfriend to the hotel and there she found us together in the room as well as the surprise. She was happy and apologetic but it still seemed like she couldn’t trust me anymore… I kind of let her be. I’m still friends with her boyfriend tho.”
“I may have played the advocate of my friend’s relationship too hard that I have noticed that there’s this unspoken gap between us. He would always come and tell me the issues and the good times he has been having in his relationship. I think the mistake I kept making was being ever ready to advice him. If it went sour, it became my fault. If it was good, I wasn’t really apportioned any glory but I always heard the good news on the state of things. I noticed that in this current relationship of his, it’s been a rollercoaster and I was always ready to listen to him but he has been distant and kind of not willing to share much with me anymore. [Airtime: 853365487804307 – 9mobile] I understand that I am the single friend and it is human for him to think I want to ruin his relationship or I am not the best person to give the advice but I’m afraid I am losing my friendship with this person.”
“I was always the one in and out of relationships and my friend kind of found it a little difficult to get in one. She would always said it was because I was the attractive one and I found this funny. I didn’t take it seriously until she started going out more without inviting me. Before then, I noticed she didn’t like discussing my relationships with me. She would always avoid that particular topic when all I wanted was to share my wins and losses in my relationships with her. The girl was just jealous and now we do not even hang out anymore after she admitted that I was always overshadowing her when we hung out together.”
“I remember my friend always coming to me for advice in his relationship and never taking it because I was the single one and what did I know? I just understood that he needed me to just listen to him rant and nothing more but it is a little difficult to just listen to him talk about his confusion and you know the right things to say to him but you can’t because you do not want to feel like you are doing too much and eventually lose your friendship with this person.”
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