By Belove Olocha
You ever wonder why the first few months of your relationship is rosy and afterwards, all the charm suddenly dies down.
In a round table discussion, different ladies have shared their experience how their man who was sweet, loving and caring suddenly lost interest in them.
“He calls me every day at least twice, morning and evening. Then I started noticing he was withdrawing. I eventually confronted him about how emotionally distant he is from me and he told me he was no longer interested in the relationship” said one of the ladies.
In most cases, women live in denial that their prince charming is no longer interested in them. Here are some signs to know when your man is losing interest in you and what to do about it.
1. WHEN HE IS CONSTANTLY MAKING EXCUSES NOT TO BE WITH YOU.
His actions towards you have drastically changed and you can sense you’re no longer a priority. He doesn’t include you in this schedule and when it comes to anything concerning you he becomes automatically busy and forgetful. Even when you draw his attention to it, he gives excuses such as ‘oh I forgot’, ‘I’m busy’ etc.
You should confirm why he is suddenly busy and forgetful. You need to know his stress level from work and change of schedule by having an honest conversation with him about the subject. If you find out he prefers spending his free time on other things/ people instead of you, then you need to walk.
2. HE CAN GO DAYS WITHOUT TALKING TO YOU.
Here, phone calls and texting have reduced. You are the only one doing the texting and calling. In some cases, he doesn’t even respond to your calls for days and you are left wondering. If he avoids your calls and responds vaguely to your text, then that is a red flag.
If you desire a committed relationship that leads to growth and development then the above action is not good for you. You need to draw his attention to it and if he doesn’t change, just know you deserve better.
3, HE BECOMES DEFENSIVE AND RUDE OVER MINOR ISSUES.
A lady shared how her boyfriend got so defensive over their Netflix account when she found out someone else had the password.
She politely called her boyfriend about the issue and he got so mad and defensive saying “I don’t need your permission to share the password”. Weeks after, she found out he gave the password to another girl he was talking to.
When you sense a change of tone in your man’s voice and how he reacts to issues you guys normally laugh about, then there is a problem.
There is nothing much you can do at this stage. He has decided he doesn’t want you anymore and he is waiting for a good day to say it. I would suggest you move on.
4. WHEN SEX IS THE ONLY THING.
Some women have shared how their partners only care about having sex with them and nothing else. This can manifest in different ways. He doesn’t share important issues with you, he only invites you over when he wants to have sex, he pressures you into having sex only to not call you for days.
You’re in a dead relationship. This is not the kind of guy you want to invest your time in. You need to call it out and leave.
5. HE AVOIDS QUESTIONS ABOUT YOUR FUTURE TOGETHER.
He treats you as a casual friend/acquaintance. He isn’t taking any valid steps to move the relationship further. If he tells you ‘I have commitment issues, instantly know this is a one-sided relationship. He doesn’t see you in his future.
The greater possibility is he is only interested in having a casual relationship with you, especially if he is more focused on physical intimacy rather than emotional. Your solution here is to say farewell.