A former sociology professor at King Abdulaziz University in Saudi Arabia, has explained why Saudi housewives are losing their husbands to their housemaids.
According to reports in the country’s newspapers, Saudi men are increasingly falling in love with their housemaids and are marrying them to the surprise of their non-suspicious wives.
Speaking with Arabic daily, Al Riyadh, Professor Abu Bakr Baqadir said the trend can be blamed on husbands having “complicated personalities” and wanting too much care from their wives.
“By care I mean accepted norms in society such as washing his clothes, cooking his favorite food and maintaining her looks.
“If the wife fails in giving the husband this kind of care, he will definitely start thinking about the maid, especially if the latter tries show off her beauty, and he finds this in the maid,” he said.
“I am not saying that wives should act as maids and do nothing but take care of their husbands.
“What I am saying is that wives should have a strong relationship with their husbands, a relationship that is built on mutual respect and love.”
Many Saudi men have taken their maids, mostly Asian, as second wives in line with Islamic law which permits a Muslim man to take four wives at a time.
A Saudi housewife, whose name was given as Areej, told the Saudi Gazette that a maid hired to work in her home eventually got married to her husband.
The maid, named Rita, according to Areej, was well treated. Her husband, she explained, did not like her and claimed to avoid eye contact with her.
“However, Areej later noticed something fishy about her husband’s relationship with the maid and decided to send the maid back to her homeland.
Five months later, Rita was back in Saudi Arabia, not as a maid but as the official second wife of Areej’s husband, the paper reported.
Samira Abdulmohsin, a Saudi housewife, had a similar experience. Two months after the arrival of her maid, she discovered the relationship between her husband and the maid, who ended up getting married.
“I guess I never thought that my maid would take my husband away from me. He was cheating on me with her and I found out about it.
“What did he see in her? I cannot figure. She is not beautiful or clean,” Samira said.
Another wife, Badriya Khalid, said most housewives forget that maids are women who have feelings and aspire to get married to a well-to-do man.
“Every time my husband says nice things to me, the maid gets jealous. I can tell from her face. I also discovered she uses my make-up and puts on my dresses when I am out.
“She was trying to attract my husband’s attention,” she said.
“I think wives should be blamed as well when their husbands start looking at the maids. A wife should take good care of her husband and never let the maid does it for her.”